Let's Be The Solutions We Wish To See In The World
Posted on June 16 2018
I say this in the nicest way possible: I am not interested in your opinions, complaints, or criticisms. But I am totally interested in your actions and solutions. I am genuinely interested in how you're contributing to change.
And the reason I'm sharing this distinction is because I don't think most of us were ever taught to approach problems from a place of empowerment (myself included). We were taught to approach them from a place of feelings or opinions, but not answers. And feelings are powerful tools, and learning how to express them in a healthy way is a really important skill, but, our feelings and opinions aren't going to change the world: our actions will.
So I've been working really hard at something lately:
- When someone complains me, instead of arguing back, I try to offer them a solution they can participate in to do fix the problem (or suggest they come back to me when they have a solution we can work on together)
- When I want to complain about something, instead of letting myself indulge in my total absolute right-ness, I will make myself find a solution to fix the problem (and if I can't, then, I'm not allowed to complain about it, even when I totally want to)
This approach doesn't come naturally to me. I'm a fire sign, with a fire moon, and love to fire back at complaints or insults, but with a lot of meditation, and the resources listed below, I've noticed a big change in my actions and interactions. And if this Sagittarius can learn to approach things from a place of impact and tact, instead of immediately react, then, maybe there's hope for all of us.
“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain.”
- Maya Angelou -
CLASSES, TOOLS, AND INSPIRATION TO BE A CHANGE-MAKER
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